Why do I have so many problems with insecurities? Such as showing my
husband my naked body or sexual communication with him. He is the
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problems in intimacy:
It would be really good for your marriage if you could get over your
shyness. One of the things I have learned about men is that the
sexiest thing for them is a woman who is comfortable with her body.
Body shyness is just old childhood stuff. You can get over it. I'm a
real believer in baby-steps and the Nike motto, just do it. You know
that book title, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Once you do it
enough, almost anything can become easy.
I've always wished I could do a workshop on this very subject where,
after some classroom discussions and meditations, I would take a
group of women to a nude beach. We would all just sit on our towels
for a while, getting used to being around other naked people. They
would notice that most bodies are pretty normal, definitely not what
you'd find in a magazine of nude photos. Slowly, one piece of
clothing at a time, everyone would get naked, sitting there on their
towels. The next step would be for them to lay down on their
stomachs and feel how nice the sunshine is on their backs. Then,
after everyone had gotten used to their behinds being exposed, they
would roll over on their backs and enjoy the warm sun on their skin.
Next, everyone would sit up and feel themselves becoming part of the
community of nude sun bathers. Yes, everyone notices each other's
bodies, but not in a gross kind of way. It's kind of the same way we
notice what other people are wearing. Unless it's outstanding, we
don't think much about it.
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The next phase would be to walk out to the water. Mostly, people
would only see their backs. They would all go in the water and feel
how free it is to swim naked. After that, they would all walk back
to their towels. There would be a definite shift in how much less
shy everyone would feel. Back on our blankets, we would enjoy our
picnic lunch. Talking and laughing, eating and resting, the nudity
would become almost unnoticed. The grand final exam would be to take
a walk on the beach. The reason I know this works is because it's
exactly how I got over my body shyness. I was so shy that when I was
a girl, as badly as I wanted to go to Girl Scout Camp, I didn't
because I'd heard we had to take a physical and the doctor took our
tops off. I had a totally flat chest, but that didn't matter. I've
regretted that decision many times. Maybe someday I'll do that
workshop. I've enjoyed nude beaches in Maui where I lived for a
while and in Santa Barbara. Usually there are mostly gay men who
could care less about the women and many families with children. In
Maui I used to take my grown daughter and one-year-old grandson to a
great nude beach that was filled with lots of families playing in
the sand and sea.
If your husband is willing to work with you on this issue, you can
do this as a team. If not, do it on your own. I don't know if you
are willing to make love with lights on but if not, light some
candles next time. Get used to him seeing little bits at a time.
Then, feel the fear, but walk across the room to the bathroom. After
you've done this enough times to become a little more comfortable,
(over several weeks) come back into the room and sit on him so he
can see your breasts. Ask him if he thinks you're beautiful. Then
lean down and kiss him. Then thank him for saying that and tell him
how beautiful he makes you feel. Slowly, look for more opportunities
to be naked. Yes, you'll feel uncomfortable, but you'll find that it
will dissipate as you "push the envelope." Keep in mind
that the goal is to make your marriage more loving and passionate,
which is the greatest glue for a long-term marriage. You already
know this because it's what inspired you to write. Having come from
the same place, trust me when I say, it's going to feel REALLLLY
good to be comfortable with your body.
I wish you great success,
are beautiful because you are a woman,
P.S. - This article was written by Kara Oh
published at: http://www.alluringyou.com,
Kare Oh is author of "Men Made Easy"
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