How dare she flirt with MY man!
She and he are deep in conversation. She is flashing her eyes, twirling her hair, pouting, lip
licking and touching him. She's giving out all the signals of a woman on the prowl and she's
with YOUR man! What do you do?
What I am about to suggest won't be found in any book of rules...but in my experience, it's
many times more empowering for all concerned...
First of all he might be your man but he isn't YOUR man. You don't own him. He's a person
you are interacting with on a social and probably sexual basis. He is a person you are having a
relationship with. He is a human being who belongs to himself, just as you do to yourself.
And he is choosing to be with you as you are choosing to be with him.
I'd consider it flattering that someone else was so interested in the man I am with. It would
confirm my good taste. I'd be pleased that such a man has chosen to be with me! And don't for
a moment think I get my self worth from this. I get that from me! This is a bonus!
He's taken - I want him!
This year, biologist Lee Dugatkin and psychologist Michael Cunningham came out with some
fascinating information on patterns of attraction. The studies they carried out over several
years on birds and then humans [our mating rituals bear many similarities to those of birds]
indicated that when a man is 'partnered' his attraction ratings go up considerably compared to
when he is 'single'.
This means other women will fancy your man. It's a part of our primitive programming
because deep in our psyche we are primed to sense that 'if other people are attracted to him he
must have something worth having' He's been pre-screened by someone else!! And if she's
attractive, that makes him even more of a 'catch'.
be continued as below...
Flirt with him first
It's one of life's joys to be able to flirt with the man in your life. It's the keynote to keeping your
relationship fresh and exciting. If someone was 'over-flirting' with my man, I'd probably find
some subtle [or not so subtle!] way to remind him of all the good things he's got with me! I'd
just make sure I flirted with him even more than she did and before she even started!!!! But I
wouldn't ever deny who I am, just to make him like me more. Whatever you do has to come from
a deep-rooted good feeling about the man you are with.
I'd flirt with all my feminine wiles and all the information I have about what he turns him on.
After all, if you've been intimate with him, you will probably know what gets him passionate
and hot! Flirt sexually with him - he'll love you for it. He'll feel good. Believe me, men love to be
Show your desire
Men are vulnerable just as we are. They long for a woman to express her desire for him. We
never stop talking about how we want a man to pay us compliments, tell us we're beautiful,
make us feel good. So why shouldn't we go first and give him a taste of how good it feels.
Show him he's wanted, not by nagging and hassling or by acting jealously, but by
demonstrating your desire and flirting using all that you know about his wants and likes to
draw him to you...mmmm
It's a big mistake to think that after a few dates you've now officially got a 'boyfriend' and that's
it. It isn't. Most men are susceptible to womanly wiles. They are biologically programmed to spread their
seed far and wide! Despite the influence of current social programmes, human beings can be led
by their primitive programming. Men are programmed to look around.
Natural radar for women Next
P.S. - Peta Heskell is author of the book Flirt Coach published in the USA by Harper Collins/Thorsons in June 01. She runs the UK Flirting Academy, and coaches
clients privately. She is a frequent media guest in the UK and has run workshops in Florida and Amsterdam, Netherlands.
You can access her website at:www.flirtcoach.com
Following is a list of readings that we recommend for you:
- If you want your lover to be passionately attracted to you, wanting
you, and craving your touch ?you've come to the right place
?That is "Instant Sexy Letters"?I highly recommend it.
See what you think... "Instant Sexy
- Are you always afraid you'd do something wrong, or that the
guy wouldn't like it? NOT ANY MORE! If you can't give yourself the
title of Blow-Job Queen after reading this, you'd better put a
mirror in front of your face and see if it fogs up. That is "A to
Z Guide to the Perfect Blow Job"?I highly recommend it. See
what you think... "A to Z Guide to
the Perfect Blow Job"
- With the divorce rate over 55% in the United States today
(and often higher in other countries), it is important to know
your partner as intimately as possible before taking the
plunge!" That is "Compatibility Test"?I highly
recommend it. See what you
think... "Compatibility Test"
- To help you have the most enriching and rewarding
relationship possible, then seriously consider investing in at
least a small amount of study on the subject. That is
Relationship Collection"?I highly recommend it. See
what you think... "Michael Webb’s
- ??LOVER QUIZ??
What food and drink you should avoid the 24 hours before making love? Click