analysis for online dating:
boys, we have a problem. We outnumber the
women, and most of the ones out
there don't like to post. So we have to overcome those odds. How?
off, if you're going to answer ads, remember one thing: responses which
offer no information do not prompt most women to write back. If a woman
gets a response that says nothing but, "Hi I'm interested write
me," she will most likely toss it out; not only does such a response
make you sound dull and uninteresting, but she's probably got a half-dozen
other letters to answer. If your response doesn't communicate clearly who
you are, what kind of guy you are, and why you're interested in her, why
should she bother with you?
in mind: women who post ads usually get a bunch of responses. To get the
lady's attention, you're going to have to work hard to sound interesting.
the fact is that I've heard from guys who've written and told me they had
success answering ads. I heard from at least one guy who answered just one
ad, and subsequently wound up getting engaged to the lady. But the fact of
the matter is that your odds are an order of magnitude better if you
actually post an ad.
be continued as below...
Before you can get the beautiful
girl, you have to make the girl you love, fall in love with
you. I have found the tightly guarded secrets that can make
your dream come true. That is called GuyGetsGirl...
I highly recommend it. See what you think... GuyGetsGirl
most women don't post ads! So the most wonderful woman in the world may be
out there scanning for ads looking for someone just like you, but because
you never advertised, she will never find you. Most women don't post ads,
and the girl of your dreams may be one of them. If you want her to find
you, post an ad!
when you do post an ad, try to keep the following in mind:
all the advice I have given so far. It's all very important.
sound desperate. This actually goes for both sexes, but especially for
men. The old rule is very true: the harder you look for a girlfriend, the
harder one will be to find. Be patient, and avoid sounding pathetic,
excessively horny, or desperate. It will not help.
patient. One ad may net you no responses at all. If you're extremely lucky
as a man, you may get as many as a dozen responses. More likely, you will
get from one to three.
in more than one place. There are many venues out there on the Usenet and
on the World Wide Web which are free and easy to use. Use as many of them
as possible! If you post your ad to the Usenet, be sure to post it in
every group that might apply -- for straights, I recommend posting in
alt.personals, alt.personals.ads, alt.personals.misc, and any regional
news group nearby. And if you post an ad on the Web, be sure to place it
in more than one service. Remember, the more coverage you have, the more
likely is that your special someone will see it: you are, on average, ten
times more likely to get good responses if you place an ad in ten places
than if you place it in just one.
prepared to post your ad repeatedly. Do NOT expect one ad to get you lots
of responses. Instead, prepare yourself for a bit of a wait. Post your ad
in several places, and then wait see what happens. Wait a couple of weeks,
and post it again. You may want to "tweak" or fine tune it each
time you re-post it. If you aren't getting many responses, you may want to
re-write it. But in any case, keep posting it until you get a response.
be continued below...
you do get a response, don't stop posting your ad. Remember, one response
means nothing. Until you've gotten to the point where you're seeing each
other regularly, or at least writing to each other daily and talking on
the phone a lot, you should keep posting your ad. Never invest too much in
any one person until you have a good reason to believe that it's going
post your ad too often in the same place. This may seem a contradiction,
but it's not. If people see ad after ad from you, you may look desperate
or stupid, or at least annoying. Also, if you're using the Usenet, it can
take as long as two weeks for a message to be completely distributed to
all Usenet sites, so don't post much more often than that. Posting a new
ad once every ten to fourteen days seems the most reasonable schedule.
you need to remember that the audience for personal ads is not static, and
no one response to an ad means much. An enormous number of women read
personal ads, but some only do it once in a while. Even those who read
regularly might not notice your ad the first few times it appears. A woman
may be interested in your ad but not be able to work up the courage to
answer it -- but if she sees your it enough times, she may finally work up
the courage to respond. If she does answer, she may lose interest. This is
just like any other way of meeting people -- keep exploring your options
and trying, patiently and persistently, until you hook the right lady.
SUM IT ALL UP: write a good, creative, intelligent, and thoughtful ad
that's specific about what you do and don't want. Take all the space you
need to get it right, but don't ramble; remember that too long is as bad
as too short. Post it every couple of weeks in several different places,
tweaking it now and then, and trying various experiments to see what works
and doesn't. Keep posting ads until you are positive you've got a serious
relationship going with someone. And most of all, just be patient, with
yourself and others.
article is reprinted by permission - Copyright 1995 and 1996 by Dean Esmay.
Following is a list of readings that we recommend for you:
Advantages Become the man other men
want to be, and the man women want to be with! You will have
boosted self-confidence, walking, talking and acting more
confidently around both men and women! More>>
- Before you can make
your lover the happiest in the bed, you need to gain
unlimited sexual stamina. I have found this program
Orgasms" that has changed many men’s
lives they can never imagine. Highly recommended…
- NO MORE DULL DATES! Are
you tired of the same old dates? Come on. They are lame! If you really
want to spice things up and impress your sweetheart, try
out these 300
- ??LOVER QUIZ??
What food and drink you should avoid the 24 hours before making love? More>>