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Breakup - Breaking Up Advice:                

         Breaking Up Is Hard to Do

During the past few weeks weíve discussed some of the important issues with regard to being single, becoming more assertive, finding someone to date, and getting to know the character of this new potential lover. Of course this leads to the ultimate decision - are they a keeper, or not?

What happens when you realize what youíve found is not what you really had in mind? Now you have to find a way to end it - which can be even more difficult than finding them in the first place!

Thinking back to grade school, most people "broke up" through someone else. Suzyís friend Marcy would tell Donís friend Joey that Suzy wanted to break up with Don. Why? A fear of having to be straight up, uncomfortable with the possibility sheíd hurt him, etc. etc. Then as these youngsters "grow up", they find other ways to communicate this without involving friends.

The first primitive technique is what I call The Weenie Way. This is where Suzy just flat out stops calling Don. She doesnít return his calls or email, and hopes heíll just get the idea and give up on her. Or Bill goes out on a few dates with Nancy, then simply never calls her again. Many adults still use the Weenie Way as a form of avoidance rather than being direct and upfront.

Then thereís the old Make them hate me routine. If I am cold enough, donít have time for them anymore, and do things that will make them angry enough, theyíll stop calling me and I wonít have to be the one to break up!

Of course we canít leave out the Drop subtle hints for what seems like forever version of breaking up. If we donít show a lot of enthusiasm, seem to be slowly losing interest, and just kind of hint around, maybe theyíll get a clue. Closely related to this is the Maybe Iím just not ready for a relationship technique, suggesting the reason youíre thinking about not being in a relationship is you; your lifestyle, your job, your inability to get too involved - itís not them.

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All of these approaches reflect a sorry state of immaturity, but still happen everyday around us anyway.

It is my belief that the more direct you are, the more open and honest from the beginning, the easier it is to break up in a manner that leaves a mutual respect and sometimes a friendship intact. When a failed relationship ends in an explosion of hurt, anger, and resentment, it's usually because one partner either adopts one of the above approaches to breaking up or (worse yet ) totally shocks the other person with a sudden, out-of-the-blue, statement that they want to end it.

If a relationship doesnít seem to be heading the way you want it to be going, itís not that unreasonable to communicate your thoughts and feelings as you see it begin to unravel. But when you act like everything is perfect because youíre afraid of hurting them, then you drop the bomb, well, thatís when people snap!

There is an art to breaking up, just like there is in meeting people. If you become comfortable with honest, firm, but non-assailing communication, you can begin and end relationships without all the turmoil and grief that some experience.

Whenís the right time to end it? That, of course, is different for everyone. For example, if you arenít really ready to get too serious and be on a timeline to get married, then maybe youíd date someone youíll know youíd never marry for a little longer. But when you feel the other person is getting more involved and wants much more than you and you sense an imbalance occurring, itís time to start communicating how you see things progressing and your thoughts about your future together.

If the relationship starts off on the wrong foot, and you feel itís too much work for the amount of pleasure, Iíd end it sooner than later. Too many people are way too patient, and spend years in a series of high maintenance relationships that should have been terminated early on. The timing issue is never a simple one since there are many variables in each relationship. So instead of trying to pinpoint when you should break up, Iíd rather leave you with one thought about HOW you do it.

Donít over - communicate from the beginning about every thought and feeling you have about your new relationship. But do keep a dialogue going on a regular basis about what you want, how you see things are going, and what direction youíre heading. If and when your new relationhip falters and itís time to end it, it shouldnít be a surprise to either of you.

Thereís no need to protect this person from the truth that you want out - they can handle it. They may be hurt or disappointed, but you arenít so awesome that they wonít be able to live without you. Theyíll get over it. You owe it to them, and to you, to not let it drag on forever. Donít take the Weenie Way out - tell them how you feel. In the long run theyíll respect you more, wonít slash your tires, and hopefully find it in their heart to salvage a friendship out of it.

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