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               How to Help Him be Monogamous


Doctor:

Does a cheating man ever change? Is "Once a cheater always a cheater?" true? If you take him back will he be faithful to you from now on?

Hello!

If you've read any of my other articles or my book, "Being a Man in a Woman's World", you know that I don't believe in the word "cheating". This is because, by it's very definition, EVERY man is a "cheater". The word doesn't really describe the situation properly. You see, by nature's design, (not mine) men are not monogamous in the first place.

In any animal species where few offspring are born, and the infant mortality rate is high (as it is in tigers, squirrels AND humans), males are pre-programmed to try to have sex with as many females as possible in order to pass on their genes to the next generation.

The concept of "pair-bonds" is actually a very new feature of our society! If you consider that humans have been on this planet for about 1.6 million years, (some scientists are beginning to think it's actually much longer - about 7.5 million years!), and we've been pair-bonding only for about 5,000 years, that means that we've been doing things a different way for fully 99.69% of the time we've been here!

So, what does that have to do with your question?

This: it gives you a great tool to help your situation. You see, while men aren't monogamous, we can CHOOSE to be! In fact, many do. So, here's the key to your situation: simply be the women for whom your man chooses to be monogamous!

Many "relationship experts" use this "once a cheater, always a cheater" statement because they don't really understand the situation. Consider, that infidelity happens in many relationships. That doesn't mean that the male (or female for that matter) is always going to cheat. For many it's a one-time thing. Most often it occurs because the person is looking for something they are not already getting.

I don't know the situation in your particular relationship, but I know this: your man can choose monogamy over polygamy if he wants to - many, many men do. He just has to have the right motivation to do so.

To be continued below...

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So, the question becomes this: what does it take for him to be monogamous? I don't know the specific answer, and right now, neither do you. That doesn't mean that you can't know it however. Consider that if you become the woman that gives him everything he wants in his relationship, he's not going to be looking elsewhere to have it fulfilled.

How are you going to know what these things are? Ask him! But, when you ask him, don't just sit down and say, "Ok, tell me all the things I have to do to keep you from cheating." You're not going to get anywhere with this. Instead, strive to understand him and his needs. Get to know what things he finds important in himself and in his relationship.

Then, all you need to do is simply adopt these things within yourself.

Good luck, much love...

By Dr. Dennis W. Neder, he is the author of  Being a Man in a Woman's World
P.S. - Got a love, relationship or man/woman question? I answer all letters. You can write to me at dwneder@remingtonpublications.com for answers. For more information about my book, “Being a Man in a Woman’s World”, visit: www.remingtonpublications.com

Following is a list of readings that we recommend for you:

  1. Facing the most painful and devastating experiences, The Affair, you are not alone. Claimed as the Bible of The Affair, Dr. Bob Huizenga’s Break Free from Affair gives you a step-by-step guide to help you break through the confusion, fear and move on with A Greater Life ahead. Break Free from Affair

  2. You can save your marriage TODAY! With impressive success rate of 90%, Dr. Lee's proven and effective approaches will rescue your marriage starting from today, and you could have the relationship of your dreams! Save Your Marriage... see what you think...

  3. I have found the effective 4-Step "strategy" to help you survive the relationship crisis, heal your broken heart and bring back your love. That is called Bring Back the Love of Your Life! I highly recommend it. See what you think...  Bring Back the Love of Your Life!

  4. How to have the GREAT SEX you can ever have in your life? How to have MULTIPLE orgasms you can have TONIGHT? How to make your partner crazy about you sexually? Killer Orgasm, we highly recommend.

  5. End Your Internet Porn Addiction- Do you suspect that your loved one is addicted to Internet pornography? What are the options for treatment? How to rebuild your life free from Internet porn? "Treating an Addiction to Internet Pornography" explains to you the answers for the above.

Recommended Readings:

Break Free From The Affair -a step-by-step guide to help you break through the affair, find how...

 

Bring Back the Love of Your Life! - You can mend your broken heart and bring back your lover! Find how...

 

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