My experience with hundreds of people during the last sixteen years shows that the
chances for rebuilding trust depend on some basic behaviors on the part of the person who
had an affair:
Being willing to answer your questions, hanging in while you deal with the understandable emotions,
demonstrating a commitment to the relationship by severing contact with the other
All this is aimed at strengthening the bond that has been broken. It demonstrates a
willingness to handle problems in a responsible way instead of trying to bury them, avoid
them, or hope they go away. There are no shortcuts; the only way through this situation is
to face it head on and deal with it. Even then, it will be difficult for everyone.
Certainly, no one (either the one who had an affair or their partner) wants to drag this out;
it's so painful and uncomfortable that everybody wants it to be over quickly, but it can't be
rushed. So unless both people are willing to commit to honesty and to investing the time
and energy necessary to deal with all this, they're unlikely to make it together; or if they
do, the emotional distance from the lack of commitment to doing what's necessary leads
to a deadened, meaningless marriage.
But there is hope that by actively working together, you can come through this with a
stronger relationship and greater trust than you had before. A crisis like this provides a
chance to "get it right" something most of us didn't really do in the first place when we
had a kind of "blind trust" and just assumed everything would work out all right.
To be continued below...
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I can honestly say that I would never have chosen to go through all this in order to get to
the kind of relationship we have now; but since it did happen, we learned from it and
devoted ourselves to developing a strong bond based on complete honesty and a commitment to fairness and equality. Because of this, our trust is stronger than it ever
was before the affairs.
P.S. - Peggy Vaughan is a relationship expert, specializing in dealing with the issue of extramarital affairs. She reaches an international audience
through her own Website at: http://www.dearpeggy.com
Following is a list of readings that we recommend for you:
the most painful and devastating experiences, The Affair, you are not
alone. Claimed as the Bible of The Affair, Dr. Bob Huizenga’s
Free from Affair gives you a step-by-step guide
to help you break through the confusion, fear and move on with A
Greater Life ahead. Break
Free from Affair
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found the effective 4-Step "strategy" to help you survive
the relationship crisis, heal your broken heart and bring
back your love. That is called Bring
Back the Love of Your Life! I highly recommend it. See what
you think... Bring
Back the Love of Your Life!
How to have the GREAT
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Your Internet Porn Addiction-
Do you suspect that your loved one is addicted to Internet
pornography? What are the options for treatment? How to rebuild
your life free from Internet porn? "Treating
an Addiction to Internet Pornography" explains to you the
answers for the above.